Written by Lisa Pearson
With the advent of a new year rapidly approaching, many people are thinking about making resolutions for the new year. If you are single, maybe you have decided that you no longer want to casually date and want to be in a relationship. If you are in a relationship, perhaps you would like to make some changes to improve your relationship. Whatever the situation, the following tips can help you to make some improvements in your current status.
If you are single:
Relationship expert Marcia Brandwynne states that “Many single people spend a lot of time and energy searching for Mr. or Ms. Right … but don’t have a clue about the type of person they should really be looking for.” Passionately seeking someone without knowing who to look for makes the search for a partner that much more difficult. Surely you have some ideal traits and characteristics in mind; you just have to think about it.
Brandwynne suggests that the secret to finding a compatible partner is to meet someone who holds similar ideals and morals as yourself. The first step towards finding a mate is to think about and write down your own ideals and morals. Think about what is important to you, what interests you, and what kind of life you want. Get to know yourself better to get a better idea of what type of person would suit you best. After you do some soul searching and taking inventory of your life, you are ready to search for your ideal mate.
If you are in a relationship:
Do you find your relationship to be full of arguments and you feel the love is gone? Did you know that fighting the right way can actually help and improve your relationship? Brandwynne suggests that couples who complain and explain to turn ugly fights into constructive conversations. Expressing your problem with your partner and then explaining how it affects you will allow them to see things from your perspective. Yelling and attacking your partner gets you nowhere fast; the other person can shut down or it can turn into a long shouting match with nothing getting resolved.
Brandwynne also recommends that you be aware of your body language while you’re having these conversations as well. If you are crossing your arms or rolling your eyes, your partner will likely get defensive and offended by these actions. Remember to complain and explain and improve your relationship.